Commitment to be Free From The Past Part 2

Evaluating the Past
1. Evaluate your life by completing your own family history. Father then Mother.
a. List what you feel are/were the positive qualities of your father/mother.
b. List what you feel are/were the negative qualities of your father/mother.
c. Describe how you feel/felt about your father/mother.
d. What emotions does/did he/she express openly to you and how?
e. Describe how you and your father/mother communicate/communicated.
f. Describe the most pleasant and unpleasant experiences with your father/mother.
g. What messages did your father/mother give you about yourself? Were they positive or negative? Please describe.
h. Describe how your father/mother punished or criticized you.
i. In what ways are you different from your father/mother.

2. Describe the history of your personal relationship with your father/mother from infancy to the present time.
a. What made the relationship close?
b. What made the relationship distant?

3. Describe the history of the sibling of the opposite sex who is closest in age to you. (or use same sex if necessary)

4. Describe the relationship your parents had as you grew up. Did they openly express feelings? Did they ever argue or fight? Was one domineering? Describe the kinds of difficulties you sensed between your parents. How did you feel about their relationship?

5. What were you most afraid of as a child (criticism, failure, rejection, competition, darkness, getting injured)? Tell, as best as you can, about the circumstances when you were most likely to have this fear.

6. Did you have any Christian training? Describe the role God has played in your life. What concerns, fears or problems have you had in relation to God? When were you first aware of them? What have been your most serious concerns?

7. List 10 adjectives that describe you.
Which of these adjectives are characteristic of each of the following.
Spouse
Father
Mother
Brother
Sister
Friend

8. Describe your earliest memory

to be continued

Materials taken from
Wright, H.N. (1985). So You're Getting Married. Ventura, California: Regal Books.